My Story

At four years of age, my mother and I were in a tragic car accident. I was thrown through the windshield, she was killed instantly. Throughout my childhood years after this event, I endured sexual abuse, then a psychotic stepmother came in to the picture who hated me and made sure I knew it. At eleven years of age I was sent to live with my aunt and uncle and although my uncle was an alcoholic, those were the happiest, most endearing years of my young life. My uncle wasn’t your typical alcoholic, but rather a charisma-filled, eccentric charmer who was always the life of the party. Or at least that’s how I remember him. He and my aunt made life fun again. It was during my aunt/uncle years I accepted Jesus Christ as my Savior. I was only twelve, but I knew exactly what I was doing. 

Throughout my teen years I lived for the Lord and made it all the way through high school a “good girl”. It was only after I started college I made decisions that I knew weren’t good for me, but at the time I wanted to have some fun. So I packed God up in a neat little box and put Him on a shelf. With me at the reins of my life, it didn’t take long to steer right off a cliff. Within the year, I was in a relationship I had no business being in, and six months after that I was pregnant. 

Everything in me said abortion was wrong, but I charged forward with really bad advice, from even worse friends, and I went through with it anyway. March 29, 1985 was the day of my most regrettable mistake. I was nineteen years old and making decisions of life and death that I had no business making. My boyfriend broke up with me shortly after and I really don’t blame him. He begged me not to have the abortion and I selfishly did anyway. Don’t ever let anyone tell you this is just a woman’s issue. Men suffer from the aftermath of this choice as well. 

For seven years after this date my life quickly became a mess. I started drinking, then consuming vast amounts of drugs, spending all my money to go to concerts and get backstage, signing up for credit cards and maxing them out, suffered through a rape, and going through relationships like water, not committing to anything or anybody.  After an attempted suicide and being consumed with death, I cleaned myself up enough to get married. 

My husband is the real hero in all of this. He loved me even as messed up as I was and lived with the drama of my life for years. We had two sons right away. My first son I have always felt like was a gift from God to wake me up. That pregnancy got my attention and made me realize my life was worth living, if not for myself, then for this precious creature that had been entrusted to me. My second son was indeed born on March 29th, the very day I had taken a life, God gave me another gift straight from Him. God speaks often, heals much, and redirects life’s circumstances, through children and pregnancies all the time. My husband and I have just celebrated twenty-fiveyears ofmarriage. To have spent the last quarter century with this man, enjoying life, making memories, raising two awesomely incredible boys, and growing up together I can truly say I’m completely blessed.IMG_6929

Not long in to our marriage I heard about a class that was being offered for women who had experienced abortion and were having trouble afterward. I couldn’t believe it. I was so happy to find an outlet for these emotions and pain I could never fully deal with. This Bible study I attended gave me back my life. It showed me how I needed to accept Jesus forgiveness and forgive myself. It was an incredible discovery and a much needed transformation. 

Experiencing God through that study, in a way I had never known, compelled me to immediately start teaching the class. I enjoyed teaching for several years. Finally in the year 2000, God started showing me the need for SaveOne-an abortion recovery ministry. Since that time, my wildest dreams have come true. I have never had more fun in my entire life than when I finally surrendered all to God. To see God take my most regrettable mistake and turn it around to help others find freedom through truth is an unexplainable event. 

God has walked me through forgiving the abusers in my life, owning my bad choices and wiping my slate clean, and has made me a victor of my past circumstances; and no longer a victim. What happened to me as a child is not what defines me, but rather strengthens who I am today. The enemy meant all that junk for nothing but destruction in my life, but God used it all for the betterment of myself, my awesome family, and to help others through the same situations. 

It is my passion and purpose to go wherever, speak to whomever, and do whatever it takes to get the job done. What is the job you ask? To see abortion end in our country and around our world. 

So there’s the real story…Without Grace I’m a mess, true and simple. With Grace life is awesome. 

14 thoughts on “My Story

  1. Sheila thanks for your sharing your story! I had 2 abortions 22 and 24 years ago. It wasn’t until I had a miscarriage after two full term pregnancies that I was triggered, it was like a scab had been ripped off #OUCH So I began to search for recovery resources that would facilitate healing. I believe God has called me to this area of restoration. I do not have a chapter in my area, I’m in McKinney, TX and I would love to take the online bible study so I can start a chapter in my area.

    1. Thank you so much for writing to us Patrice. We want to help! We are thrilled that you found us. We will send you an email to get you going with an online study. This will help you get familiar with the material, as well as help with your healing journey. You will then be able to take what you learned to help others! God is so good to do this for and with us! We will be with you every step of the way. We’ll be in touch soon. Blessings to you!

  2. What an amazing testimony to how God has worked in your life and is continuing to work through you! He is able to turn something bad into something good. What an awesome God we serve! May He continue to bless your ministry!

  3. I need to take the time to write you a *proper* letter, but it is ever-so-late as I am reading all over your blog and the Save One site. Let me just please thank you, Sheila, for your Save One Bible study! I completed it this past April, 28 years after my abortion at age 19. I only did the Bible study as a prerequisite for volunteering at our local pregnancy care center. I was fine. I had been redeemed by the blood of Jesus. My abortion was all behind me. I. WAS. WRONG. I had always believed that revisiting the details of my past would be like picking off a scab, further wounding an already- healed sore. I thought it was too “pop psychology-ish” for me, a Bible-believer for 16 years. What I found, after Save One (and boy was I annoyed with your questions at first 🙂 , is that my pain was more like a broken bone that had “healed” improperly. It needed to be broken again in order to be healed, truly. And when I got to the story of the mom who had a child with a disability, that was it. I was broken, completely. That story was my story, too, and I needed to see that in print to realize how much territory I had allowed the enemy to occupy in my life. After that point of total brokenness, the Lord was able to step in, the great physician He is, and just do some incredible healing in areas I had struggled with for decades. I am so thankful you followed your dreams, Sheila, and wrote this study. I’m anxious to serve other women both in my church and at our local pregnancy care center, and I do so hope to meet you one day. You feel like a dear friend! With much gratitude, Claudia

    1. Claudia! How wonderful to log on this morning and see your incredible story of Jesus love, forgiveness, and “re-breaking”. It does my heart good to hear stories like this. I’m so grateful God used our study to take you back to His Word and help you heal fully and completely. Thank you for taking the time to write and let us know your awesome story! Go forward knowing you will help many come to that same forgiveness through Jesus!

  4. This made me cry but with tears of being a proud aunt and thanking God for letting your Uncle Roy and me have just a very small part of your raising. I love you Sheila. Roy nor I ever had any regrets of you all coming to us after your Mom got killed. God blesses me everyday as I see how each one one you have trusted your life’s to God. Your Mom & Roy look down and I’m sure they too talk about how proud they are of you. GOD IS GOOD!

      1. 12 years ago I had my third (and last) abortion. I was a mess afterward. I blamed my husband. Every time we got into a spat I turned it into blaming him for the abortion. It was horrible. I was grieving. I hated myself and surely thought God was mad at me and quite possibly that I had gone too far and He would never forgive me. THEN I found SaveOne and the woman who did my course was a wonderful, loving woman. Like others on here I HATED the questions in the book. I HATED having to look so deep inside and deal with the pain, because I was already in pain, but in a different way. I was trying to hide what I had done. SaveOne was trying to bring things to the light and set me free. One night I was the only one who showed up for class and it was a God appointed evening. That night I was set FREE from the shame, guilt, hurt, fear and ugliness that follows an abortion. My husband says I haven’t been the same since.

        A few months after this I shared my testimony with our local paper (we live in a town with a population of 41,000). I shared because a local theater was doing a play about abortion and they wanted to get the perspective of someone who had gone through one. I didn’t get any negative feedback on it either. God is good.

        I would encourage ANYONE who has had an abortion to go through the SaveOne classes. Even if you think you went through your abortion(s) unscathed, I KNOW it would help you. The devil is alive and well. He wants to keep you bound. God loves you more than you can imagine and HE IS RIGHT HERE WAITING FOR YOU TO COME TO HIM AND ALLOW HIM TO FORGIVE YOU. YES, the blood of Jesus covers the sin of abortion. It is no different, nor any worse, than any other sin. God bless you all.

        1. Tammy! It is stories such as yours that keep all of us at SaveOne doing what we’re doing. To see one life saved…one marriage restored…one woman never choose abortion again…then turn around and tell others…that’s what it is all about. One Life. I love it. Thank you for being so open and transparent about your story. I am believing someone reading this blog will reach out for help because you were brave enough to speak up. This truly means the world to me. Keep on telling your story! It’s more powerful than the enemy who is at the heart of the entire abortion industry!

The fact that you took the time to read my blog truly means the world to me. Please reply and let me know you were here. I LOVE REPLIES AND COMMENTS!