Sometimes I look back on last years letter on this date for inspiration and view last year’s topic. When I looked at July 2016’s letter, I felt sick to my stomach. Why? I was writing about the election. Raise your hand if you are so incredibly happy that election is behind us!
Even though our nation is still in much turmoil and chaos, to have that election in my rear view mirror is a relief to me. As I read the words I wrote one year ago, I returned to the fear and worry I felt at that time. I admit, the anxiety isn’t completely gone, but I hope you can join with me in saying the turmoil has prompted me to pray for our country and leaders harder than I ever have.
Our leaders change, our nation shifts directions, our belief systems falter. It’s scary. But one thing of which I am certain: when we stand firmly—unwavering—on God’s Word, there are no shifting shadows, moving targets, or other shallow belief systems that can make a mark on us. I am so thankful for that. For this reason alone, our resolve to end abortion cannot rely solely on political responses. We, as Christians, can and must do something now.
The Church is powerful and mighty because we have a sovereign God who is fighting on our behalf. As we see in His Word, He fights through people. We have to make the first move, and then His power flows through ordinary people to perform extraordinary feats. It’s a beautiful process of healing that we are witnessing now, lived out in the lives of individuals around the world.
There are pastors who offer SaveOne, chapter leaders who teach SaveOne, brave men, women, and families who turn and deal with the pain of their abortions changing the tide in their future generations. They are the ones fighting this battle and they are winning. Taking that first step is all God needs. A willing vessel, whole and healthy, is a powerful tool in the hands of a powerful God.
We want you to join us. Talk to your pastor today about starting a SaveOne chapter. We have a packet of information and a promo video we can send to introduce ourselves. I promise, the people who are reached because of your efforts will be eternally grateful.
WELCOME TO OUR NEWEST CHAPTERS!
MORE GREAT NEWS!
Did you know we now have a theme song? If you go to saveone.org, click the Moving Mountains link to download it. It’s a beautiful song that Jeff Deyo, Jonathan Lee, and Sarah Reeves co-wrote and gave us permission to use. Listen and then spend the $0.99 to have it permanently. Then tell all your friends about it!
We also have new t-shirts. For a long time, we only had the v-neck white shirts, but now we have round neck in black! WOO HOO! I have it on right now and I’m getting compliments everywhere I go. They are bold and have the SaveOne website on the sleeve. Thanks for purchasing the song and t-shirts because 100% of the proceeds from both go to reach more people with the truth.
Please be praying about our campaign to purchase a permanent home for SaveOne. We have had an extremely generous offer to allow us to purchase the condo where we have been located for the last 12 years. But we have to raise $150,000 THIS YEAR! Will you pray about our efforts, but then also pray and see what God would have you contribute? We need everyone’s help!
Thank you so much!
We love each and every one of you and we thank God for you and your support!
We are so excited to welcome FOUR new chapters of SaveOne in the month of February.
*Ft. Riley, KS
“Thrilled” is a good word to use that explains how we feel when a new church or pregnancy center wants to start teaching our Bible studies. At that moment we welcome them in as a new chapter of SaveOne.
Have you ever thought about starting a chapter in your church? Maybe you have never had an abortion, or you don’t feel qualified to teach the studies. No worries. We have done all the startup work for you! We have a pastor’s letter and promotional video we can send to you to introduce this idea to your pastor; chapter tools that will help you know when and how to announce the class; advertising tips and ideas for a more successful class; and, your own personal chapter coordinator assigned to your state as a resource to help in any capacity.
Introducing SaveOne to your church or pregnancy center may seem a little out of your comfort zone, but I can tell you from personal experience the reward is worth the stretch. The men, women, and families you will reach will be eternally grateful to you. Here are a few of the things you will personally witness by having SaveOne at your church:
- Lives transformed
- Marriages restored
- Men and women becoming leaders
- Relationships with children improved
- Self-worth returned
These men and women return to their communities, homes, jobs, and churches, and they become the people God always intended them to be before they chose abortion.
Changing lives is what abortion recovery is all about! We truly believe that word-of-mouth will end abortion in our country and around our world. These men, women, and families become a voice for the issue of abortion. We like to call them our “Army of Truth Tellers”!
But we need you! We need your involvement through adding to this army by starting a chapter of SaveOne in your area. It’s easy, and we will show you how! Please contact us today to get started.
OTHER WAYS TO HELP SAVEONE
If you are in or around the Middle Tennessee area and shop at Kroger, did you know you can opt for a percentage of your purchase to go to SaveOne? Go to www.Kroger.com and click on “Community Rewards”. (And if you haven’t checked in a while, will you please make sure you are still listed as helping SaveOne? For some reason, the organization you pick will fall off after a year.)
Also, through Amazon, you can also click Amazon Smile and list SaveOne as your charity of choice. A percentage of what you purchase through Amazon will come to us.
These are two ways to help SaveOne that do not cost you a dime! Of course, we could also use your donations. In short, we reach more people when we have the resources to do so. Therefore, we are looking for people to partner with us for $25 per month. Perhaps your church can do this. Or maybe you personally feel led to support our ministry long-term in this way.
Thank you in advance for all your help and support.
What an awesome year it has been already! We have added 3 new chapters, with twice as many in the works. Please welcome Golconda, IL; Pinedale, WY; and Casper, WY.
We couldn’t be happier with TWO pregnancy centers and a church now having a new avenue of outreach. When these leaders start advertising they offer SaveOne abortion recovery, they will begin to change the stigma of the Church. People in their communities will know immediately they are able to enter these buildings and feel love and acceptance, not judgment and condemnation.
SaveOne as an outreach for your church or pregnancy center results in a lasting, loving, and transforming change. Here are a few things you experience or observe when you start using SaveOne to reach out to your community:
*Love shown to those who feel rejected after this choice
*Marriages reconciled through forgiveness after the abortion
*Lives transformed through the healing power of Jesus Christ
*Salvation found by those who are healing from the experience
*Men becoming the heads of their households again
*Women allowing the past to no longer dictate their future
*Families restored and healthy relationships formed
*The freedom to openly talk about abortion without mentioning controversial politics
These are just a few of the benefits added to YOUR church and community when you take SaveOne as your own and start reaching outside the four walls of the church. By welcoming those who feel damaged and rejected by the Church, the Church suddenly becomes a place of acceptance to those who had felt it a place of condemnation. The enemy loves to tell the post-abortive to keep the abortion a secret because of the Church’s response, but SaveOne proves that being open about the experience sets people free:
“The ministry of SaveOne has literally exploded in our church. When we first offered the class at Cornerstone Church, I thought I might discover the subject was taboo. The response was quite the opposite. I have watched men and women discover that forgiveness and cleansing really are available for every sin and mistake. The people of my church are so absolutely behind the ministry that I have enjoyed riding the wave of momentum with them as SaveOne has reached far beyond the walls of the local church to offer hope to an incredibly damaged part of our society.” Maury Davis, Head Pastor, Cornerstone Church, Madison, TN
If you would like for SaveOne to be in your church, contact us and we will help you every step of the way. To be an official chapter of SaveOne, the cost is FREE and the results are phenomenal. Hope to hear from you soon!
Be sure to tell others to go to saveone.org and sign up for our newsletter to get my latest e-book, “Abortion and You”. THANKS!
Every passing year, the urgency of our message and call becomes more apparent. With the two sides of the abortion issue, the wrongs and rights of it, the confusion originates. Since the beginning of SaveOne we have had a consistent message of taking back the conversation about LIFE from politics and placing it in the Church. We believe the hijack from the pro-aborts over the abortion issue was created by design. That design lends itself to knowing many things move slowly and very hard through the political system. Plus, there is far less power there than in the hands of a mighty God steering, and the Church at the helm.
It brings to mind the scripture from God’s Word found in 1 Samuel 17:16 NLT that says, “For forty days, every morning and evening, the Philistine champion strutted in front of the Israelite army.”
How long has Planned Parenthood been strutting around with their millions of our taxpayer dollars killing the unborn, and devastating the lives of mothers, fathers, and families? It’s been much longer than forty days for sure!
You may be asking, “How did this issue become political? Who took the issue from the Church and placed it in the politician’s hands?” The answer is, the pro-abortion fighters of this battle. They turned the value of life into a political topic. Don’t be blind, but be on your guard. Satan prowls around like a roaring lion seeking whom he can devour. He knows who and what he’s up against. He can’t fight hand-to-hand combat because we will win every time. Instead, he creeps in when we’re not paying attention and he takes control away from us. He ensures we’re consumed with other “projects” so we forget to be activists for issues close to God’s heart.
For many politicians, standing on blood money has been their ticket to being re-elected. They tout themselves as women’s rights advocates and repeat the same venomous lies we’ve been hearing since 1973. Unfortunately, the public’s minds are still being poisoned, and sadly in many cases the Church is too.
Abortion is an ugly business. It’s a gruesome, bone-chilling procedure steadily occurring in our world today. So it’s no surprise the Church has tried to keep her hands clean by sidestepping this issue and handing it off to the political world to debate. It’s just easier that way.
To change laws, we must change minds first. We have to get the Church on the right page. It can’t be satisfactory to vote for a pro-life candidate and then decide to vote for someone else who claims he or she is going to lower gas prices, not even knowing their stance on abortion. We must educate the Church first and foremost the importance of this issue. This task starts with you and your church.
Courageously make a stand and let people know your church values life and will no longer tolerate what’s going on. Sure, people might leave your church and you will certainly offend some. But likely, most will appreciate your spiritual leadership. If people leave out of offense, they would have left you eventually during a hard time, so you really haven’t lost anything. But, who are we fearing? The Lord? Or man? We have an audience of One.
I have said many times, “Silence equals compliance.” Don’t let your silence in the church be mistaken for compliance with abortion.
Isaiah 1:15 is a verse that should terrify all of us. “When you lift up your hands in prayer, I will not look. Though you offer many prayers, I will not listen, for your hands are covered with the blood of innocent victims.”
I pray that is not how God looks at America or any other country!
The Church holds the power to take this issue from the political arena, but we must wield that power before anything will happen. It will take brave pastors and courageous church leaders to step into an arena where battles for life take place every single moment. That’s when the wind will be at your back and you will join the ranks of those like David who handily took care of the Philistine champion and his strutting.
Call SaveOne today, email us, or contact us through social media. We can give you the tools to confront the abortion issue through love and acceptance, not judgment and politics.
Blessings to you, and may this year be the year you see abortion end in your community through your efforts.
What a year…huh? What an incredible, extraordinary, bizarre, yet unbelievable time in which God chose us to live! We saw tables turned, people going crazy, declarations made, and rioters (seemingly) taking over at times. This year has been outrageous–to say the least.
At the very epicenter of this fight is one thing…abortion. Sure you can pass it off to the epicenter being foreign relations, or illegal immigrants, or this, or that. But seriously, when we get to the root of the problem in America and around our world, the root is this one subject. Without the protection of life from conception to natural death, our country loses its way. The reason is because LIFE is the most precious gift bestowed on us from our Creator. It’s a gift in which we must fight and protect at all costs, for without it, all other issues and important topics are mute.
When we see killings in the streets or human trafficking on the rise, why are we not surprised? It’s because we have raised a whole generation of people who have seen life be expendable. Something to throw away for the sake of convenience; or because someone has been offended; or because the media has incited people to believe things that aren’t true about another race or group of people.
What is the answer? At SaveOne we believe the answer can be found in the CHURCH. When the Church says, “Hey, LIFE is not a subject that belongs with politics anymore. We’re going to take it back from politics and promote LIFE in everything we do!” Only then we will see the political landscape shift with politics following the Church instead of the other way around.
Through abortion recovery this process happens every day. We are seeing people who once chose abortion never choose abortion again. (multiple abortions are very common). And we are seeing churches start to stand up against the sin of abortion because now they have a tool, SaveOne, to offer those who have made this choice. Men, women, family members, and loves ones are being set free from the bondage abortion brings and are becoming a resounding voice in this debate! Their stories are powerful because no one can argue with personal experience.
YOUR UNDYING PASSION…
So why this heavy newsletter at Christmas time? I want to fire you up and ignite a passion inside you, our SaveOne friends, to start a chapter of SaveOne at your church next year. Make next year be the year that you are unleashing your passion to see abortion end in your community. It’s easier than you think, and truly is an affordable resource any church of any size can have as its own.
Together we can see abortion come to an end. I have proclaimed for the last 16 years that I believe it will happen in my lifetime. What a legacy to hand down to our children and grandchildren!
HEROES TO US
You guys are heroes to us. Your prayers, your financial gifts, your encouraging cards, emails, and social media posts fan the flames for us. Thank you so much. I do not use the title hero lightly. Heroes are precious. And we see you as one of them. If you have taken time to read this blog, then you are that person to us. Thank you for being interested in our message. Thank you for taking your time to be informed of SaveOne’s news. Thank you for being a part of this incredible movement, for without you, none of this is possible, and I mean that.
We are so proud that 2016 brought forth over 30 new chapters of SaveOne…places from Hungary to Oklahoma; from Arkansas to Switzerland. This is because of YOU and how you supported us. People are being healed through the power of Jesus Christ and abortion is ending for them and those around them.
One huge way you can help SaveOne is through shopping through our resources for Christmas gifts. The sales of our books, t-shirts, and bracelets help us reach more people. Would you consider buying t-shirts, bracelets, and books for your friends and loved ones this year? We sure would appreciate it!
You’ll hear from me again in January when we’re ready to tackle 2017!
My prayer is that every one of you will start today to devise a plan to talk to your pastor or start a chapter of SaveOne in 2017.
Several months ago I asked the SaveOne chapter coordinator, Terri Nordone, to answer some questions. Terri is a longtime leader at SaveOne and has had continuous success in offering this class at her church. I wanted other chapter leaders to hear of what she is doing, and glean from her incredible wisdom. Terri is a dear friend to me, so get comfortable and hear what she has to say. You won’t be sorry!
Tell us about the church where you hold SaveOne. How long have you been there? Where are you located?, etc. The Salem Oregon chapter of SaveOne is hosted by Morning Star Community Church. My husband and I have attended Morning Star since March 25, 1998 when we accepted the Lord as our personal Savior at a memorial service that we attended and have been attending there ever since.
How long have you been a chapter leader with SaveOne? 10 years! My first class started in September 2006.
Why have you stayed with SaveOne all these years? At the time that I started SaveOne I was a new Christian. In experiencing the fullness of God’s grace and forgiveness, I asked Him “What can I do to help other women who need to be set free from the bondage of abortion know this forgiveness? I will do whatever you ask me to do please show me what I can do” This truly has been Gods call upon my life. I have been called “for such a time as this” and I will stay with it as long as He calls me to it. The incredible blessing that I experience with every SaveOne class is proof that I am right where God wants me to be. The proof is in the fruit!
What has been the greatest challenge in abortion recovery that God has helped you overcome? Well, to be perfectly honest, there are a few….
#3 challenge – spiritual warfare. We are in the middle of an intense spiritual fight. Satan has had this issue wrapped up on all sides. But the way I look at it is if there is a spiritual battle going on then that means God and His Angels are at work right beside me and God will always win if I trust Him completely to fight the battle. One of the sections of scripture that I teach in my SaveOne class is found in 2 Chronicles 20:1-23, which I believe, is an incredibly powerful outline of how NOT TO fight the battle – but rather, let God fight the battle…”for the battle is not yours but God’s…stand and see the salvation of the LORD on your behalf. Once I handed this battle over to God (I call it “fast from the fight”) peace flowed “Like a spring of water whose waters do not fail” Isa 58:6 -11 This is the fast He chooses! We are not in control – He is control!
#2 challenge – That I’m going to say the right thing. God has proven Himself time and time again. He always comes through! Have faith that He has equipped you “for such a time as this”.
#1 challenge – Waiting for women and men to come. When I was waiting for someone to sign up to take my first class in 2006 I was pleading and pleading and pleading with the Lord to bring them, looking for ways to advertise and get the word out, disappointed that SaveOne was not included in our church bulletin yet again, hurt that another new ministry was given much more mention and attention than SaveOne was, on and on and on until God led me to this scripture….”Cease striving and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth” Psalm 46:10 Ok, deep breath, we hear you God! Please give us patience.
What did you learn in that process? Trust, Faith, Patience and, of course, that last one is always the hardest for me.
What is one piece of advice you would give to new chapter leaders that you wish you had when you started? Answer #4 & #5. Hang in there! God is at work in ways we don’t see, hear, or know.
What is the funniest thing that has happened to you in a SaveOne class, or while you were working with SaveOne? I can’t think of one right off hand. We are always laughing at ourselves. After we get past the first night our classes are full of laughter.
What is the greatest moment that has happened to you in a SaveOne class? There are so many miraculous moments! Two of our gals have gone on to start chapters at their own churches, one of which held fast to the belief that she made the right choice “I don’t regret my abortion” and “It was the right thing to do in those circumstances and I would probably do it again if the circumstances were the same”. She believed that up until week 8! God renewed her by transforming her mind. She started SaveOne at her church in 2012.
One of the greatest moments happened just recently when I met with a young college student who sent me an email with a cry for help. Here is an excerpt…
“….I was raised liberal, and I consider myself a Feminist. I know the logic behind the idea of choice. However, I wanted this child even though I was not legally an adult and in spite of the difficulties that would have been involved in raising her.
I feel like I was stripped of something that was my right, and I don’t know how to get it back.
To this day, I feel depressed, sometimes suicidal, angry, isolated, and lonely.
Can you help me?”
I met her for coffee and told her about SaveOne. She decided to join our class that had started a couple of weeks before so I met with her again to get her caught up before she joined the class that night. The very first question in the book is, “Describe how you picture God at this moment”. She said, “I believe everyone views god in their own way, some might see him as an antlered man in the wilderness, or as an old man with white hair and a beard…” she had investigated Buddism, Hinduism, even Wiccan so she had all these varied ideas. But as we worked through the first chapter her views began to change. It was at that meeting when I led her to the Lord! When she heard the truth of the Gospel SHE WAS IN! That very week she began attending church. The next week she joined another Bible study and one of the church Community Groups. She truly is all in!!! She didn’t miss one SaveOne class and we have witnessed an amazing transformation in her! She is now ready to join us on our speaking team!
Will you write a prayer for the other SaveOne chapter leaders?
Heavenly Father, Thank you for your amazing grace. We receive it and stand in it wholeheartedly. Thank you for being ever trustworthy. We trust in you to go before us and fight the battle and clear the way for us to go. Give us strength for today to resist the attempts of the enemy to throw us off track. May we stand firm, following hard after you. May we take every opportunity you provide to pray for others, minister to others, serve others, and in doing so bless you.
Thank you, Father, that you have called us to be your beloved daughters and sons, and that you have sent us into the world to be your ministers of healing and messengers of grace and love. What an honor it is to work for you and beside you under the power and guidance of your awesome Holy Spirit. May we be good stewards of the gifts you have given each one of us and use them for your glory.
Thank you for all you have given us. Amen.
The following is a Prayer/Poem that God gave me years ago. I now recite this as an opening prayer to open our Night Of Honor.
You’ve unlocked my heart, Lord
This captive you’ve set free.
It was not my war to wage alone
You won my victory.
When I cried out in brokenness
You drew me to your side.
When confusion fills my soul again
Your peace alone satisfies.
In fear and reverence I approach
To worship before your throne.
Offering you my humble gift
A heart that’s not my own.
My fervent prayer is to know you more,
and to bless your holy name.
What you bestow, I’ll give back
As a living sacrifice and praise.
You are Lord, you are Redeemer,
Your majesty’s untold.
You are Friend, you are Savior,
You are all mine to behold.
Be careful what you promise!
When I started SaveOne, I remember promising God I would go wherever, speak to whomever, and do whatever it takes to get the job done. That “job” you might ask? Seeing abortion end in my country and around the world. Making a promise like that was easy when it was made at an altar, knelt down on padded carpet floors, in a comfortable climate controlled building. The whole premise of that promise sounds romantic and adventurous. But when push comes to shove, does that promise mean traveling to dangerous places?
Of course it does. When the doors opened to share my heart in the Middle East, I wasn’t as thrilled as I had been for opportunities in Europe, where nice hotels are plentiful and Europeans with a heart like mine reside.
Armenia? I don’t even know where that is on the map! Seriously…I had to Google it. When I saw their borders included Azerbaijan, Iran, Turkey, and Russia I was a little less than thrilled about the promise I had made when I started my mission.
My husband and I returned from Armenia just 5 days ago. It was thrilling, and at the same time so incredibly humbling that God even allowed me to go and meet the beautiful people of this nation. Once I arrived and started experiencing the culture and seeing the great need for SaveOne in this country I was ecstatic God made a way for me to live out my promise. We are already planning our return in 2017. So be careful not to carelessly make promises to God—be ready to keep them because He will challenge you.
This trip included the first ever SaveOne Europe Summit. Sonja Horswell (our SaveOne Europe Director) and her team did a fantastic job of bringing together 12 European nations who are all teaching SaveOne. What an awesome moment for our ministry as we saw firsthand the lives being changed, and abortion being stopped around our world. All of this happens because YOU give, YOU pray, YOU encourage us, and YOU are getting people into these classes to hear of God’s truth, grace, and forgiveness after abortion.
I believe the lives of the American team we took over there will be forever changed because of all they saw God is doing through SaveOne. Thank you for making this happen!
We are adding chapters of SaveOne weekly, and we want to add even more! If you or your church wants to teach SaveOne as a small group study, we have information to give you. Please contact us and we will send you a pastor’s packet either electronically, or through snail mail. We have done the homework for you, so starting a chapter of SaveOne is extremely easy!
One of the ways you can support SaveOne without costing you anything is to sign up at Amazon Smiles and name SaveOne as your charity. Be sure to check the one in Hendersonville, TN. Every time you shop on Amazon Smiles a portion of your purchase will go to SaveOne!
Thank you for all you do to help SaveOne. We appreciate you more than you can possibly imagine.
Esther: Heroine? Fool? Insane? Psycho? What would be your description? Anyone who has read the book of Esther knows the outcome of the story. *Spoiler alert ahead* She enters an impossible battle, it looks as though she will probably die, but she wins in the end and the enemy is defeated and killed. Reminds me of a scene from “Lord of the Rings” when the character named Gimli says in regards to returning the ring, “Small chance of success, certainty of death, well what are we waiting for?”
Knowing the end of the story we can all proudly say we would call Esther a heroine. If that same scenario were unfolding today say…with your sister, your niece, your husband or wife…would you encourage such action?
Esther wasn’t willing to remain quiet. There were thousands of lives at stake. She drew on the courage that comes only from above and she fasted THREE DAYS with no food or water. Can you imagine? She gathered the Jewish people, plus her assistants, to fast with her. Concentrated shared fasting and praying is effective. You will see how successful this effort was in the end.
More than likely she knew she could die, but she went through the painfully frightening progression of approaching the king, planning and executing the banquets, and well…read the story and you will find out all she went through. (Esther-Holy Bible) In the end, because of her unwillingness to remain quiet, a whole generation was saved. Thousands of lives would continue on as families, babies were born, marriages endured, family outings were shared, and holidays were celebrated. Who could believe how Esther and her family were blessed? God blesses good decisions. He also blesses those moments when we step outside our comfort zone on the faith of our fasting and prayers, and trust Him and only Him.
One of my favorite quotes is by Theodore Roosevelt, “Better to dare mighty things and fail, than to live in a gray twilight where there is neither victory nor defeat.”
How would millions of lives be different today had Esther remained quiet and stayed comfortable in a gray twilight?
What are you keeping quiet about?
Use Esther as an example of what could happen in the end. Don’t avoid the lives of the unborn, or helping to restore hope, healing, and restoration to those who have already made the wrong choice because it may be too controversial, or too dangerous, or too political, or people will think you’re crazy. Staying in a comfort zone is boring. Be counted among the “Esthers” of the world who have risked it all and were blessed beyond belief for it!
Ways to Help SaveOne
Sign up for Community Rewards through Kroger here in Nashville and name SaveOne as your charity.
Use Goodsearch as your search engine and name SaveOne as your charity.
For all your purchases online go through goodshop.com and name SaveOne as your charity.
Give our books, t-shirts, and bracelets as gifts, the proceeds go to SaveOne and help us reach more people with TRUTH. You can purchase on our website at saveone.org
God’s blessings on you and thank you for your help!
No woman in her right mind ever dreams as a little girl, that one day she will grow up and have an abortion.
I usually avoid sweeping statements such as this one in my writing, but I can say this statement with confidence. You would be hard-pressed to convince me this would or could ever be a goal in someone’s life. Has anyone ever wondered why? Why is this not a goal? Why is abortion not looked at as the ultimate for a woman being in control of her own body?
If you are reading this article and you are faced with a pregnancy that has rocked your world, or you are trying to help someone who is facing an unplanned pregnancy, please keep the following questions in mind. These questions are important points to ponder before making such a choice. I’m here to show you facts about the future and living with a past abortion….from personal experience and nearly two decades of working with men and women who chose abortion in their pasts.
1. Have you checked your abortion location and it’s last inspection for cleanliness, botched abortions, and fatalities?
For example, in Illinois there has been a recent crackdown because of a neighboring state’s abortion clinic being discovered and dubbed a “House of Horrors”. When Illinois started looking into its facilities they found some clinics had not been inspected for 15 years. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/20/illinois-abortion-clinic-_n_1219897.html
The “New York Post” reported nail salons in their state were inspected more than abortion clinics. The best record they could find were some of their clinics were being inspected every 4-6 years, the others had not been inspected in more than a decade. Make sure where you intend to go for your abortion has been inspected within the last year and it is a safe place to perform surgery on you. Even if you’re having a chemical abortion and not a surgical one, if they don’t care about the cleanliness of the facility, then it should make you question the standard of care you will receive. Be sure to find out all the details of what is going to happen to you at home (and what you are going to see) if you take a pill to obtain an abortion. While you’re at it, find out also if the doctor has admitting privileges to the nearest hospital. God forbid, but in case something were to go wrong during your surgery he would be able to get you into a hospital.
And again in my home state of Tennessee, here is a link to the testimony showing clinics are not licensed or regulated in any way.
In all fairness I looked for an article that shed a positive light or gave me some hope that a state somewhere was touting their abortion clinics as safe and clean. I couldn’t find one. You have plenty of clinics making that claim, but be sure to look further at state reports that are neutral on this subject and see what is said.
2. Have you talked with women who have experienced abortion and women who have had their child under stressful, less than perfect circumstances, and considered which group lives with the most shame and regret?
This is the best way to find out the truth of what the future holds. Here are some questions to consider to help along the way. What have others experienced who have gone before you? How many of these mothers who chose life for their children live with thoughts and feelings of shame and regret? How many of these mothers who chose abortion for their children live in a state of shame and regret? Out of the mothers who chose life, how many of them wish they could go back and make a different decision? Out of the mothers who chose death how many of them wish they could go back and make a different decision? The show, “Sex and the City” had an episode one time that a friend of mine told me I had to watch. I was so glad I did. One of the girls (Miranda) on the show got pregnant and wasn’t married. Another girl (Carrie) told her she had a past abortion and she would go with her to the clinic. Miranda wrestled with the decision and ultimately chose abortion. Carrie accompanied her to the clinic and was answering questions about the surgery to her friend. One of the questions from Miranda was, “Did you ever get over your abortion?” Carrie’s answer was very telling. “Any day now I might”. This last statement is an insight I have seen many times with girls who have past abortions. Now I understand this is just a television show, but it accurately depicts what I have seen in men and women for years. It’s not something you ever “get over”. On the show, Miranda ended up leaving the clinic and choosing life for her child. Another accurate portrayal of what we see every day through abortion recovery. When people learn the truth, they are freed from a future of shame and regret and are thankful they chose life for their child.
3. Have you thought about the future you at 30, 40, and 50 years old?
I just turned 51 years old. I had an abortion when I was 19. At that age I only thought about the moment I was in, as well as thinking only of myself. I didn’t consider others, not even the father of my child. I quickly learned at 19 that even though I thought I was in a strong, committed relationship, after the abortion it lasted about 2 weeks. By the time I was 30 I had 2 small children and had to tell my husband about my past abortion. It was a grueling night with many tears and fear of losing my family. By 40 I had to tell my children of the abortion and see the pain and disappointment in their eyes. I also had to tell my family for fear they would find out from others. My sisters have grieved their niece for many years and the fact I didn’t come to them for help during that time in my life. Now at 51 my boys are 26 and 28 years old, and I should have a daughter turning 30 in October. My arms literally long to hold grandchildren. I believe there are supposed to be grandchildren in my family this very moment that I am missing out on because I chose abortion. No one ever told me to consider that not only was I ending the one life growing inside me, but I was also ending my future bloodline through that child. Think about it.
These are just 3 points of many to consider when contemplating abortion. I am not here to tell you how bad you are or heap more guilt on you for thinking about this choice. I’m just wanting you to think about more than what is right in front of you; what may seem as the easy way out…isn’t. If you are pregnant and reading this, you are already a mother and what is growing inside you is already a human being. You are literally deciding if you are going to be the mother of a living child or a dead one. I know that sounds harsh, but these are the facts that must be considered. These are the facts no one told me. These are the facts that I and millions of women AND men are living with daily.
If you are someone who works to protect life, please feel free to share this letter on social media, as well as with your friends. Together we can save others from making the same mistake myself and countless men and women have made…and lived to regret.
I would love to hear from you. Please write me in the comments below, or you can send me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org. I want to help you any way that I can. You can also check out our website at www.saveone.org.
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God’s blessings on you!
Sheila L. Harper
Founder and President
You guys hear from me all the time, so I wanted to switch things up a little this month. My friend, Mary Fainn was a disc jockey on a local radio station in Guntersville, AL when I first met her. The tables were turned then and she was interviewing me for the station. I traveled to Guntersville for the interview, not knowing I was about to meet a lifelong friend and SaveOne advocate. We have seen each other through incredible transitions in both our lives. We’ve cried together, laughed uncontrollably together, and celebrated great victories together. I cherish this woman. As a chapter leader of SaveOne you are never just left out on your own to fend for yourself and figure things out. We pour into you and forge a relationship that is strong.
That’s the thing about SaveOne. We become family, not just business relationships. When we get down in the mud of life with each other we can’t help but bond and become brothers and sisters. So…see what my disc jockey friend is up to now!
Sheila: Tell us about the pregnancy center where you hold SaveOne.
Mary: (Gate Pregnancy Resource Center) We help women who are pregnant until that child is one year old. We offer everything a new mom will need including maternity clothes and classes. We offer SaveOne to our clients as well as the community. I have been in Harrisburg NC for 2 years and before that Albertville AL for 12 years.
Sheila: How long have you been a chapter leader with SaveOne?
Mary: 14 years I think?
Sheila: Why have you stayed with SaveOne all these years?
Mary: I believe in SaveOne and have had the privilege of watching God heal and restore women and men through this Bible Study. The support of the SaveOne team is top notch and professional. I know they pray for all the chapters and are willing to go the extra mile to help leaders. I know the scriptures used in SO are the healing balm God uses to restore people.
Sheila: What has been the greatest challenge in abortion recovery that God has helped you overcome?
Mary: Sharing my story. I was so terrified to tell my secret sin but once I received healing and God called me to help others, I realized it was not my story to keep secret but that it was God’s story of redemption and love to share.
Sheila: What did you learn in that process?
Mary: I learned that the best way to fight for life is to share my story. The best way to allow God to use me is to share my story. The best way to show love and compassion to hurting people is sharing my story. The best way to honor God is to tell HIS story of healing. Pray and keep “pounding” (sorry I live in NC). Don’t give up, don’t be afraid to tell your story and share about healing even when people look at you weird. It’s ok to have just one or two in class, God brought them there. Remember it is HIS ministry and HE will provide all you need and the words to say. Keep yourself rested and renewed so that God can pour into you. Trust that lil voice that says I know I’m suppose to do this and ignore the but…. Utilize others who have been doing the ministry they are full of encouragement and information. Pray.
I just have to take a break right here and say BRAVO MARY!!!!! She gets it. She understands the power behind her story and she has dedicated her life to making sure others find their story, their voice, that will save babies, save heartaches to moms and dads, and end abortion in its tracks!6. What is one piece of advice you would give to new chapter leaders that you wish you had when you started?
Sheila: What is the funniest thing that has happened to you in a SaveOne class, or while you were working with SaveOne?
Mary: I was going to speak at a church in the pouring rain and my sun roof popped the seal and I was drenched. They were great and I got some participants. Another time, same car, my horn just went off and got stuck. I pulled into the parking lot of the church with my horn blaring. They had a mechanic there and he fixed it for me. OYE
Sheila: What is the greatest moment that has happened to you in a SaveOne class?
Mary: I love it when someone has the break through and you can see it and hear it. The best one was a couple who were going to get divorced, I ask him to wait until she finished the class, he agreed. She had done every bible study, counseling etc… he did not give it much hope. That was 8 years ago and they now do prison ministry together and she co-leads SaveOne. God is so good!
Sheila: Will you write a prayer for the other SaveOne chapter leaders?
Mary: Dear Lord, I ask that you cover each leader with your feathers, keep each one of us under your wing. Whisper in our ears the words to say to those we encounter. Bring us the hurting and broken and use us to minister your love and restoration to broken families. Give us ideas and wisdom to reach out in our communities, state and country. Guide each class and night of honor. Use us to end abortion. Give us boldness to proclaim life and love through Jesus Christ, the truth. In Christ Name, Amen.
See now why I cherish this woman? She is a Godsend and making an incredible impact on the men, women, and families in and around the Charlotte, NC area.
Please don’t ever feel as though you are alone. You are NOT alone. SaveOne is here to help you, train you, and pour into you so you can teach this Bible study in your church or pregnancy center.
Love you guys all the way up to the moon and back! 🙂